What if we have self-care all wrong?

Nearly half of all employed women worked remotely in 2020 because of the COVID 19 pandemic, and many of us still do today. 

Working from home offers conveniences like no commuting, the comforts of home, and the ability to unload the dishwasher between meetings. But it brings added stressors, too. Children, pets, home repairs, and countless other to-dos can fill our minds and make it nearly impossible to fully focus on our work, let alone our own mental and physical health. 

Yet, we’re told to prioritize self-care as an additional responsibility. Practice mindfulness. Unplug often. Set healthy boundaries. Learn to listen to your body. Put yourself first. Blah blah blah. 

Conversations around self-care — or what the World Health Organization (WHO) defines as “individuals, families, and communities promoting and maintaining their own health with or without the support of a health worker” – have never been more common or more discouraging. 

Thanks to our own high expectations as well as society’s, we’ve unintentionally created a vicious cycle in an attempt to care for ourselves. We know self-care is important to prevent burn out, yet we feel guilty and selfish if we take the time to practice it.

But what if we have self-care all wrong?

Women In Revenue welcomed Jeanette Bronée, internationally recognized wellbeing expert, author and two-time TEDx Speaker to explore self-care at our last event. You can enjoy her full presentation, Rethinking Self-Care at Work, here. Or, keep reading to learn some valuable self-care nuggets including understanding what self-care really is and what that looks like in a professional setting. 

What does self-care actually mean?

Maybe you don’t think of self-care as a weekend pedicure or a much-deserved glass of wine after a long day (If you do, don’t worry: You’re in good company!). Either way, Bronée thinks self-care – and how it affects us in the workplace – is far more about “care” than “self,” and that focusing too much on self is a significant part of the problem. She challenges us to push our ideas of self-care to the next level.

“Self-care is not what we do after work to recover,” Bronée says. “It’s how we work better so we don’t have to recover. Wellbeing is not the goal. It’s how we achieve our goals.” 

Jeanette Broneé: TEDx Speaker, Cultural Strategist, Wellbeing Expert, and Author

So how do we shift from a recovery mindset to a prevention one? Let’s find out.

3 ways to rethink self-care at work 

Our view of and approach to self-care shifts when we understand that people are advantages to harness instead of problems to solve. Jeanette offers many solutions to shift your point of view on self-care from “self” focused to “care” focused. 

Three solutions are detailed below, and we highly encourage you to listen to the full presentation for the rest.

[1] Hold space for difficult conversations

Time is money. And introspection takes time many of us think we can’t afford to take (Hint: We’re wrong!). Bronée encourages us to see this time as an investment in our own self-care and to hold space for who we are as people beyond how we can professionally grow and change. 

“Imagine if we could pause more,” she says. “What change can happen? That small pause where we can exhale for just a moment and allow a nervous system to calm down lets us really ask, ‘Hey, how am I doing in there, and what do I need so that I can be at my best right now?’

Jeanette Broneé: TEDx Speaker, Cultural Strategist, Wellbeing Expert, and Author

[2] Understand that self-care is bigger than you

Being honest, curious, and kind – especially with yourself – gives us the awareness to understand that if we aren’t aware of our own internal challenges, others might not be either. 

When we change how we think about self-care, we don’t just do it for ourselves. Instead, it also helps us care for, connect with, collaborate, and communicate with others. In Bronée’s words, “we self-care together,” and we’re all the better for it.

[3] Develop healthier behaviors

Acknowledging challenging feelings and understanding that you’re not alone in feeling them is useless without developing healthy behaviors to help you combat and correct the emotions themselves. Healthy self-care takes action. So, here are two restorative steps you can take to live and work healthier for yourself and others. 

  • Take 3-5 minute power pauses: Short pauses between meetings to stretch, get a snack or a glass of water, and take a breath lets your nervous system calm down.  We’re more likely to make mistakes or miss out on important information when we’re unfocused: Taking pauses and calming down lets ou focus on your next task. 
  • Adopt an “AAA” mindset: There are lots of stressors beyond our control. However, we can control how we respond to them. Bronée lays out a three-step process: Acknowledge how you’re feeling, accept those feelings as valid, and reclaim your agency

    She says, “when we pause for a moment, we’re aware of how we feel, we acknowledge the circumstances for what it is and accept what it is. Now, we can then become more adaptable, agile and healthy in our workplaces.” 

    This AAA mindset is a valuable tool in your emotional toolkit, and can help you see problems, and people, in a more positive light. 

Self-care is just the beginning

We’ve provided a quick overview of Jeanette’s tips to adopt a healthy view of self-care and a self-care mindset in a professional setting. However, she has much more wisdom to offer.

Listen to the rest of her presentation here.

Or check out our resource library of articles, eBooks, webinars, and reports to learn more tips to help you succeed as a woman in a revenue-generating role.

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  • Compensation transparency, benefits that matter and equal pay
  • How to deal with imposter syndrome
  • What to do in situations you feel less than your worth (mansplaining, being left out etc.)
  • How mentorship can play a big factor in understanding your value


This was an incredible event with very candid and honest advice. You can access the recording here.

We hope you enjoy it!

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During our Event on December 10th, 2020, we discussed what we learned from 2020 and how we can prepare for 2021 in both our careers and our personal well being.

Hosted by Women in Revenue board member and CRO of Annuitas, Lauren Goldstein, the agenda included:

  • Opening entertainment with Golden State Warriors DJ D Sharp
  • Optimizing Resources & Growth Across the Customer Journey with CRO of Allocadia Jocelyn Brown 
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Hosted by Women in Revenue board member and CRO of Annuitas, Lauren Goldstein, agenda includes: Opening entertainment with Golden State Warriors DJ D Sharp Optimizing Resources & Growth Across the Customer Journey CRO of Allocadia Jocelyn Brown talks how to partner with your GTM team for success in 2021. Driving culture in a 100% remote environment, by speaker Diane Adams, Chief Culture & Talent Officer, Sprinklr The whole person – prioritizing our own wellness, investing in our own health, with Founder of The Luminaries, Cherie Healey Join us as we talk through what we learned for 2020 and how we can set ourselves up with a framework for success for 2021.

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Learn what a top program looks like, how to expand your thinking about diversity, how to expand your recruiting efforts, and learn techniques for community and company activism.

The keynote was delivered by New York Times bestselling author & speaker Luvvie Ajayi Jones.

Our panelists were:

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  • Chantel George, Founder and CEO, Sistas in Sales
  • Traci Wade, Senior Director, Diversity & Inclusion, Oracle
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Event was Kickoff with Entertainment

The event was prelude with a celebration & entertainment from DJ SharpDJ Sharp blends a vast array of musical genres with a fluidity and fluency that is unrivaled. Now the official DJ of the NBA champion Golden State Warriors, he’s performed for Fortune 500 companies, foreign dignitaries, Las Vegas revelers, and even former President Obama!

Keynote Speaker

Luvvie Ajayi Jones is a New York Times bestselling author, sought-after speaker and podcast host who thrives at the intersection of comedy, justice, and professional troublemaking. She will be opening the event with a message of inspiration and action.

And typical of Women in Revenue events, we’ll have a lively conversation on social channels and in our Slack community – join the #diversityinrevenue channel for this event.

Watch the recording below:

Women in Revenue Presents: Take Charge, Drive Change from Women In Revenue on Vimeo.

Our research shows that you want more information about how to drive diversity and inclusion in your organizations. This program is designed to both educate, and more importantly provide concrete actions you can take immediately. You’ll learn what a top program looks like, how to expand your thinking about diversity, how to expand your recruiting efforts, and learn techniques for community and company activism. The keynote will be delivered by New York Times bestselling author & speaker Luvvie Ajayi Jones. Our panelists are: Michelle Cirocco, Chief Responsibility Officer, Televerde Noorin Fazal, Head of Curriculum and Partnerships, SV Academy Chantel George, Founder and CEO, Sistas in Sales Traci Wade, Senior Director, Diversity & Inclusion, Oracle Moderator: Hana Jacover, Group Account Director, Spear Marketing Event will Kickoff with Entertainment We’ll prelude the event with a celebration & entertainment from DJ Sharp 3:30 PM – 4:00 PM. DJ Sharp blends a vast array of musical genres with a fluidity and fluency that is unrivaled. Now the official DJ of the NBA champion Golden State Warriors, he’s performed for Fortune 500 companies, foreign dignitaries, Las Vegas revelers, and even former President Obama! Keynote Speaker Luvvie Ajayi Jones is a New York Times bestselling author, sought-after speaker and podcast host who thrives at the intersection of comedy, justice, and professional troublemaking. She will be opening the event with a message of inspiration and action. And typical of Women in Revenue events, we’ll have a lively conversation on social channels and in our Slack community – join the #diversityinrevenue channel for this event.

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